We all have a story to tell. Within that story there are chapters of love, loss, sadness and darkness. It's what defines us. We have the pleasure as human beings to be able to watch the people and communities around us write their own stories just as we're creating our own. It's quite beautiful if you actually stop and think about it for a little bit.
We smile and laugh when we see other succeed and cringe when we see others do something we feel is going to end up in one of those dark chapters. It should go without saying that the dark chapters of your life should be the smallest chapters in your book. If they aren't you should probably take a moment and examine what exactly you are doing, who you're associated with, etc. And make a change.
I'm not one to force change on anyone but I do believe we can all do better. And sometimes that requires flipping the entire script and or throwing it out and starting over.
With that being said I'm headed on a bit of a journey myself. I've decided to set forth some guidelines that will help me write the next few chapters of my life and you're either going to find yourself part of the story or written out completely.
1. Family First. Always. I want to spend more time with my family in whatever way I can. Looking back on the past few years I haven't been great at it and I feel like it's time for that to change.
2. Friends. This is a category of people in my life that deserve to be there. They realize friendship is a two way street and not some shitty business arrangement. If you're willing to put in the effort, so am I.
3. Community. I want to be involved. However, I won't be involved with individuals that seek only to make a buck and not actually improve the community as a whole. We can expand on this even more by saying if you're ego is too big and you'd rather backstab (or burn a bridge with) someone instead of finding a way to work with them or make a clean break then I actually want nothing to do with you. You're actually a poison that is leeching the lifeblood from what is already a fragile ecosystem and I'm disappointed in everything you stand for.
4. Sugar Coat. I don't do it. I never will. If that makes me a curmudgeon than so be it. If you can't take my honesty because your eyes are so glazed over by all the Kool-Aid you've been drinking then we're not meant for each other. Sorry (I think?).
5. Life. I'm not going to apologize or feel bad for decisions I make. I'll carefully think out each one before I make it and that'll be that. If you're all about guilt tripping me, asking me 100 questions, etc you're just waiting your time, and mine.
The bottom line folks, is you've only got one life and each and every day that goes by brings us one step closer to not being here any longer. Making the best of it should be the goal and that always starts with you.