Thoughts on handling anxiety

No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen.
— Alan Watts

Brothers & Sisters,

I've always been fascinated with how we manage events in our lives when we know what's coming. The levels of anxiety that arise within us as we approach the deadline of whatever it is that we're about to be thrust into captivate me. I've always felt that humans could be better at managing their anxiety by coming to grips with their situation faster. 

My mother used to say to me "you don't have a care in the world" during apparently stressful times. While I don't think that notion was correct, I do acknowledge that from the outside looking in it might have appeared that way. I guess I just look at things and analyze them quickly. Let me explain a bit further. When I find myself heading into or within an uncomfortable situation, I immediately ask myself whether or not I have the ability to control what is happening. If the answer is no, then I stop trying to drive, I quit worrying about it, and I focus on what happens when I reach the other side. The one thing I certainly don't do is dwell on the situation. That doesn't help anyone, and it certainly doesn't help me with getting through it. There are just some things you have no control over, and you might as well roll with the punches instead of trying to force your way onto some other path that you haven't prepared for.

This type of thinking drastically reduces my stress and enable me to focus on other aspects of my life that also need attention. I'd argue that when our anxiety is high, we become so hyper-focused on that one thing that everything else around us suffers. That doesn't do anyone any favors including you. With all of that being said if you find yourself in a situation that you can control, make a plan, execute on that plan and move on with your mind, health, and relationships in tacts. If we get stressed at every little thing like some people do we'd always have one foot in the grave.

So next time you find yourself barrelling towards something inevitable, give it some thought and figure out what exactly you can do about it (if anything) and handle it otherwise let go, buckle up and focus on what's on the other side.

Yours,
Jeff

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