Selfish

The great secret of true success, of true happiness, is this: the man or woman who asks for no return, the perfectly unselfish person, is the most successful.
— Swami Vivekananda

Brothers & Sisters,

I’ve been thinking a lot about the things I say and do. Before taking any action I’ve been asking myself is this benefiting me in any way before others. And if the answer is yes then I approach with great caution. The same can be said for when I’m replying to someone. If that reply is just a bunch of selfish “me” talk then I generally try and find another way to reply that removes me (or my ego) from the thread. After all, most of these things aren’t actually ever about you and much more often are pointed towards a group or other person.

It takes a serious amount of control and self awareness to slow yourself down enough to realize that you’re about to enter into that ego filled realm. Any while I’m doing my best not to sound like I’m boasting here I’d much rather be a witness for you and help you realize that complete unselfishness while possible is very difficult. Of course for some it comes much easier and that’s great but it’s definitely still a struggle for even the most decent of people.

I’ve spoken before at length about putting people before you and your desires and I’m amazed at how those thoughts have evolved into what I’m working through here and now. I realize that we all have our own desires for our time here on earth and it’s intriguing to me to contemplate how those desires can support a life that isn’t based around me but you. I’m sure in the coming days I’ll talk about this more and more than likely the Sunday reflection for this week will be about those desires vs. ego thoughts. For now though consider how much you place other people in your life before yourself, is that something that is important to you and how could you be doing a better job at it?

Yours,
Jeff

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