I'm a 36 year old IT Manager at a University in Providence, RI who is currently discerning a priestly vocation.

Get out of your own way

Get out of your own way

A truly good person will speak truth, act with truth, and stand for Truth. A truly good person is not afraid to think from their heart; therefore, allowing nonconformist decisions, viewpoints, and perspectives to lead their life. By following their heart, they stand with their conscience, and only with God.
— Suzy Kassem

Brothers & Sisters,

In a recent conversation with a friend, he said: "You have it easy. God is always a constant reminder to be a good human being." While this notion has some semblance of truth, it does not mean that we are all absolved from understanding that we are free thinking people and are the owners of our actions. Having spirituality of any kind is an excellent signpost for how one should live their life, but even if spirituality was absent from one's life, it should be clear that the treatment of people should be done in the same way in which one would want to be treated.

If one possesses all of their faculties, it is difficult to comprehend what could compel that person to choose not to do the right thing, always. How does one choose to listen to the devil on their shoulder versus the angel? The truth is that people often stumble over themselves when it comes to choosing the right thing, the wrong thing. Like an awful game of tug-o-war of the heart and mind, one can find themselves torn between the good and the bad. The notion of feeling good in this present moment is strong within most humans, and it often does not care whether or not the action is a good one. In these moments it falls squarely upon the shoulders of humanity to decide what to choose.

How does one choose the good in all things? The first step starts with the person. It takes a certain level of awareness first to understand the forces that could be acting against being able to choose the right and proper action. One has to take inventory of themselves and their surroundings. Is there negativity in and around their lives? Is it possible to remove the negativity by either distancing oneself from their community? If the answer to the first question is yes, then the first step would be to take action on the second question. It can prove difficult to remove oneself from a community, and there are two immediate choices here. The first is slowly distancing oneself from the negativity surrounding them and finding a new more positive community that is attracting. The second and perhaps more challenging is to become a beacon in that negative space with the hope that a new positive way of thinking will be infectious to the community. Taking an inventory is much broader than the example used above, but it should get one started on the right path.

Mentally, one needs to be prepared to walk away from people that might have played a large part in their life. At the end of the day what matters is how an individual lives their own life, not how those around them lived. One of the beautiful things that emanates from living a life pointed towards finding the good in all things is that one can watch the effect it has on others as it grows in them. The benefits always outweigh detractors when choosing to be a great person. It remains up to each person to understand that free will is a thing that needs to be understood as one has a choice to make.

Perhaps humanity should be given a ten-second buffer before making all decisions (that don't require an instant choice). One has to wonder what the world might be like if one was not able to make an instant decision and was forced to consider what the actual right choice is. Alas, it remains up to each person to institute their buffer on decision making.

Yours,
Jeff

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