Brothers & Sisters,
This morning my thoughts were around perspectives. What I find interesting is when I talk to people, and they tell me they watched some video by someone that they found inspiring. What does the word inspire mean? The official definition is “to fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.” The thing I want to point out here with this definition is “do something.” Of course, an inspiring video should make you feel something, and I’d argue it isn’t inspiring otherwise. However, more importantly, you should want to do something even if that something is to think about your world differently.
The thing about inspiration is that you can watch all the videos, read all the books, listen to all of your friends but in the end, if you don’t take action on any of that then nothing is ever going to change. You’ll find yourself just being a person that watches videos online. You might as well view 10 minutes of puppies doing adorable things because it’s the same thing. Perhaps something you hear or watch doesn’t inspire you, that’s fine, and that’s not time wasted, and in the end, it is still on you to be willing to change.
Asking someone for advice is you going out on a limb and letting that person know that you value what they have to say, even if it may be completely different from what you were expecting. It’s still on you to take action on that conversation, not your friend. For me, these conversations have become more of a regular thing as of late, and I find myself listening with higher intensity, agreeing when I agree and feeling like it is ok to present a different perspective or challenge if needed. What those folks do with that conversation afterward is on them. I do often ask at the end of the discussion if it was helpful or not. Some people I think, ask for advice thinking you’re going to tell them what they want to hear. That’s not me, and I let them know right at the start of the conversation. What we might talk about might be painful, some of the things I say might bring challenge your entire world view, and that has to be ok.
I cannot change your perspective, that’s totally up to you, and it takes action for that to happen.